I was looking over a friends entry again about infertility...and I was thinking about all the things people say to you when they find out you're having difficulties conceiving. So in the best interest of all my buddies (including me), here's a list of what not to and what to say to a person having fertility issues:
What NOT to say:
- Just relax and it'll happen.
- Try adopting. My friend adopted and on the day they went to sign she found out she was pregnant.
- You should probably lose some weight. I hear that weight can be a good factor.
- You can have mine! They're such a handful!
- Oh goodness, that's hard. Why me and hubby had no issues at all. We just thought of getting pregnant and it happened.
- So are you pregnant yet?
- You should try...insert anything here. (Believe me, we know, we've researched it, tried it, and then cursed it.)
- Why are you buying baby stuff? You don't know if you'll be able to have one yet, right?
- OMG! My neice just had a baby! Want to see the pictures?
What TO say:
- Hang in there, I'm sure it'll happen.
- You're trying? That's great! You two would make excellent parents!
- My friend just went through the same thing. If you want the name of a good specialist, let me know.
- Well I hope everything goes smoothly. I won't bug you with questions about it, but if you ever need to talk, I'll be here.
- You guys will have the cutest baby!
3 comments:
Add one more to the suggested (OK) list.
Oh, you want another baby? I thought he (pointing at Hubby) was enough for you!
Mark
I hear ya.... I just hope that I haven't said anything to upset you. Sometimes it is hard to know what to say...and saying something with well meaning comes out as being all wrong. I love you.
mad - I could never be mad at you sweetie!! :-) You haven't said anything to offend me. xoxo
mark - Good one!! lol
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